Dealing With Family Issues After Divorce
After a divorce, there are many family issues to consider and you’ll have to wade through these to come out shining on the other side.
The first issue is that often you feel isolated and alone. To combat this, make some new friends. Join a church, a reading group, a craft group or some such group and step out of your shell.
It’s time to create a new normal for yourself and focus on you for awhile. This will benefit both you and your children. You won’t be wallowing in self-pity and you won’t struggle to “find something to do”.
Keep your children focused on spending time with dad and mom. Don’t quiz them and don’t make them feel as if anything is their fault.
Be easy on yourself and give yourself permission to grieve what should have been. Remember that this is a new era in your life and you are going to treat yourself well. You’re going to improve on yourself.
Too often, people grieve and try to pretend that they’re not grieving. Don’t do this. If you’re sad, get out and do something fun with a friend. Redirect your feelings.
Plan new and fun activities with your kids and help them to refocus on new things to do with you. Remember that not every weekend has to have something going on. This will take away from the daily humdrum of life and kids need to understand that there are many times that it’s just a “lazy weekend”.
Learn how to do small handyman things on your own. There are going to be times when you would’ve normally had someone else do something for you. Learn to do it all on your own. There are many great videos online that will walk you through anything.